Hi
Happiness, something that comes naturally to everyone right? Wrong! For many people happiness is something you have to work at but that makes it all the more rewarding when it is achieved.
I dont know why but for some people laughing with your friends is unnatural, smiling is strange meaning it can feel like you have a soul of sadness. But you can change this! Often as a human race we focus on what we can never have or achieve.
I for one am a MASSIVE perfectionist! I love my work to be perfect, I want the highest grades, I like things to be perfect! This can make you so unhappy though as to be the best at everything is actually impossible! Sorry to burst anyone's bubble!
To be happy you have to train yourself to see the positives, to accept that sometimes things have to be good enough and that to some you will never be perfect!
Here are my 10 top tips for happiness
1. spend time doing something you love, for me this is horse riding but for you it may be dance, singing, art...it could be ANYTHING!
2. Make a scrapbook with a note of every time you felt happy. For me sometime it consists of when someone gave me a hug out of the blue but other times it could be getting a new phone or jumping my favourite horse. It doesn't matter what it is but when you are feeling down you can look back at good times. Also if you make it pretty it is extra good!!
3. Have a loooooooooooooooong bath or shower and breathe! One of my favourite things to do when I feel wound up or down is to get in the shower where I cant be disturbed and just breathe.
4.Sometimes you know what you just need to go to bed and sleep. Some days it is just okay to give up and that is ok!
5. Listen to music! Especially through headphones because you can escape the world and just feel the music.
6. This is a classic but talk to a friend, you dont have to even tell them something is up but chatting to someone who never fails to make you laugh is the best thing!
7. Light a candle and put on those fairy lights...this needs no explanation!
8. Make a box of things you LOVE special treats. This may be a favourite food, favourite hoodie, book, picture, drink, CD, DVD. It could b anything but you are only allowed these items when you are sad!
9. If you can, deal with what is making you sad. Face it head on! For example you did badly on a test, go and see the teacher of that subject talk to them about why maybe see if you can re-sit it or talk about how you can learn from this. Turn the negatives into positives.
10. Cry, Scream, laugh, smile, swear. Try something new....expressing how you are feeling. It is so important to know that it is ok to have emotions!
I hope this helps someone please comment what you do to help yourself feel better!
I love you all
The Boringly Ordinarily Normal Teen
Friday, 24 February 2017
Monday, 13 February 2017
What do you do?
Hi,
Sometimes I feel like I'm really putting my all into something but I'm getting nowhere. Like nothing, zero! For me this could be school work, horse riding, finding a job for others it may be gymnastics, football, dance, rugby and so on. I see people that are so much more advanced than me in so many areas and sometimes it gets to me...a lot.
When you are a kid, maybe even now you are told to try your best but what do you do if that isn't enough. I don't mean in the sense that you didn't win one competition or qualify for you favourite team. I mean in the sense you don't feel like you are progressing or making yourself and the people around you proud. Where do you go when you feel like you are giving something your all but you feel like you are failing.
What defines the good from the best...are the best just trying harder...what do they have that means they can give more. How do you become the best? Or do you have to be born the best? When do you draw that line, is there a point where you have to accept your best won't get you there? I don't know the answers to these questions.
I guess what do you do when you feel like you have given everything to something or someone and you aren't getting to where you want to be what do you do.
Sorry its only a short post but I feel there is a lot to think about
Love you all,
The Boringly Ordinarily Normal Teen
Sometimes I feel like I'm really putting my all into something but I'm getting nowhere. Like nothing, zero! For me this could be school work, horse riding, finding a job for others it may be gymnastics, football, dance, rugby and so on. I see people that are so much more advanced than me in so many areas and sometimes it gets to me...a lot.
When you are a kid, maybe even now you are told to try your best but what do you do if that isn't enough. I don't mean in the sense that you didn't win one competition or qualify for you favourite team. I mean in the sense you don't feel like you are progressing or making yourself and the people around you proud. Where do you go when you feel like you are giving something your all but you feel like you are failing.
What defines the good from the best...are the best just trying harder...what do they have that means they can give more. How do you become the best? Or do you have to be born the best? When do you draw that line, is there a point where you have to accept your best won't get you there? I don't know the answers to these questions.
I guess what do you do when you feel like you have given everything to something or someone and you aren't getting to where you want to be what do you do.
Sorry its only a short post but I feel there is a lot to think about
Love you all,
The Boringly Ordinarily Normal Teen
Tuesday, 17 January 2017
Living Life to the full
Heya,
Todays post was inspired by a very good friend of mine. Today she told me she was going to start living her life to the full(words to live by)...honestly I was jealous because I feel so many hurdles stand in my way of doing that. Sometimes I feel trapped by the world like I am being told I shouldn't try but today I am saying fuck that!
A massive part of my life is horses (let me know if you want to see more on that) and as much as they make me so happy they also can make me feel awful about myself. There is always someone with their own horse, riding more, competing more, jumping higher, have a better position. The thing is a year ago I was the person jumping that bit higher and doing the things I wish I could now. Around August time I had a fall off of a horse that I will forever hold in my heart, he was my baby, but it knocked my confidence more than I realised. I got straight back on after my fall (yes with a broken wrist) and continued to ride after my wrist had healed but only walking round the lanes. I am now at a different yard and havent been there very long, I can honestly say it is one of the best things that has ever happened to me and I have so much opportunity to grow as a rider and person. Not only are there wonderful horses to ride but I hope the friendships I am forming last a long time! But the nerves are there, I have been nervous about just sitting on a horse...once I am on I love it and know I am safe! But I see myself jumping crosses that I could jump years ago and get angry at myself for not being able to do more. Yet my friends (both those at the yard and those who are just horsey!) praise my improved position, my perseverance and I am trying to tell myself that its not about the highest you can jump its about the person who is jumping, how they have worked to get there and most importantly how they pick themselves up when things go wrong. I dont have my own horse, I dont have horsey parents to get to be where I am now I have had to work my bum off!
The broken arm: brace yourselves!
There is a point to that story and its that I am not living my life to the full because I am not giving myself credit for the things I have done! Living your life to the full isn't about what you are physically doing its about how you view that mentally. I don't have the most rosettes nor do I have the best Olympic horse but I do have kind people helping me to be who I want to be. I may never jump the highest jump, in fact someone will always seem to be achieving more but success is relative, look at where you have come from!
This applies to so many aspects in life as the world is a very competitive place and trust me most of the time I struggle to live my life and I settle for surviving and I am not saying I can change that right now. I am saying my future can be what I make it, so can yours! Sorry for the slightly rantings of this but I feel it is so important to recognise just because someone seems to be achieving more than you it doesn't make you any less valid!
Love you all,
The Boringly Ordinarily Normal Teen xx
Todays post was inspired by a very good friend of mine. Today she told me she was going to start living her life to the full(words to live by)...honestly I was jealous because I feel so many hurdles stand in my way of doing that. Sometimes I feel trapped by the world like I am being told I shouldn't try but today I am saying fuck that!
A massive part of my life is horses (let me know if you want to see more on that) and as much as they make me so happy they also can make me feel awful about myself. There is always someone with their own horse, riding more, competing more, jumping higher, have a better position. The thing is a year ago I was the person jumping that bit higher and doing the things I wish I could now. Around August time I had a fall off of a horse that I will forever hold in my heart, he was my baby, but it knocked my confidence more than I realised. I got straight back on after my fall (yes with a broken wrist) and continued to ride after my wrist had healed but only walking round the lanes. I am now at a different yard and havent been there very long, I can honestly say it is one of the best things that has ever happened to me and I have so much opportunity to grow as a rider and person. Not only are there wonderful horses to ride but I hope the friendships I am forming last a long time! But the nerves are there, I have been nervous about just sitting on a horse...once I am on I love it and know I am safe! But I see myself jumping crosses that I could jump years ago and get angry at myself for not being able to do more. Yet my friends (both those at the yard and those who are just horsey!) praise my improved position, my perseverance and I am trying to tell myself that its not about the highest you can jump its about the person who is jumping, how they have worked to get there and most importantly how they pick themselves up when things go wrong. I dont have my own horse, I dont have horsey parents to get to be where I am now I have had to work my bum off!
The broken arm: brace yourselves!
There is a point to that story and its that I am not living my life to the full because I am not giving myself credit for the things I have done! Living your life to the full isn't about what you are physically doing its about how you view that mentally. I don't have the most rosettes nor do I have the best Olympic horse but I do have kind people helping me to be who I want to be. I may never jump the highest jump, in fact someone will always seem to be achieving more but success is relative, look at where you have come from!
This applies to so many aspects in life as the world is a very competitive place and trust me most of the time I struggle to live my life and I settle for surviving and I am not saying I can change that right now. I am saying my future can be what I make it, so can yours! Sorry for the slightly rantings of this but I feel it is so important to recognise just because someone seems to be achieving more than you it doesn't make you any less valid!
Love you all,
The Boringly Ordinarily Normal Teen xx
Friday, 6 January 2017
Bring on 2017
Heya,
Let's have a chat about 2016...the year to be forgotten!! 2016 was possibly the worst year of my life and I do not say that lightly!! Last year I lost people, many close to me were diagnosed with illness (cancer being a common theme!) I broke my arm, got quite ill, school work felt insane and so much more but there were highlights! Some good things are tiny almost insignificant and so easy to miss but to me the smaller things make a massive difference.
Let's have a chat about 2016...the year to be forgotten!! 2016 was possibly the worst year of my life and I do not say that lightly!! Last year I lost people, many close to me were diagnosed with illness (cancer being a common theme!) I broke my arm, got quite ill, school work felt insane and so much more but there were highlights! Some good things are tiny almost insignificant and so easy to miss but to me the smaller things make a massive difference.
- Let's start with a biggie!! I got reunited with my best friend, I hope she is reading this and knows how much I love her!! One of the best things in my year!!
- Another huge high was getting my little pupsicles Charlie. Let me know if you want some pupdates!!
- I got to bring a horse on and I fell in love with him! Circumstances led to our parting but I am still in touch with his owner and hope to see him soon. He was one in a million (I did fall off him and break my wrist minor detail!!) But I see his potential and I hope one day he will get there.
- After sadly parting with one horse a good while later I found a lovely yard that I am now part of and it is fair to say it is one of my favourite places!! If anyone from said yard is reading this...thank you for all you have done for me!
- People going that little bit further for you, one of the ladies from the yard sent kisses on the end of her text and that made me smile endlessly because in that small gesture I was told I was wanted! Things like a teacher stopping in the corridor to chat, a stranger wanting to strike your dog just the little things (What a cliché I know!)
- Building on friendships, I feel blessed by the wonderful friends I have and how much closer I have become to them. Shout out to stalker! 😊
- Scrapbooking this has become a firm passion and I will be continuing this
- My increasing love for candles!!
- Pushing myself out of my comfort zone! I am determined and the real test will be a concert I am going to in Febuary...feeling positive though!
- Lastly the strength of my friends and family. My family particularly for picking themselves up after the continual string of bad news. There will still be the hard times but I love you all and here's to a better 2017.
I hope everyone is well and let me know about your 2016 the good and the bad! Here's to 2017!!
Love
The boringly ordinarily normal teen
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