Hi
Happiness, something that comes naturally to everyone right? Wrong! For many people happiness is something you have to work at but that makes it all the more rewarding when it is achieved.
I dont know why but for some people laughing with your friends is unnatural, smiling is strange meaning it can feel like you have a soul of sadness. But you can change this! Often as a human race we focus on what we can never have or achieve.
I for one am a MASSIVE perfectionist! I love my work to be perfect, I want the highest grades, I like things to be perfect! This can make you so unhappy though as to be the best at everything is actually impossible! Sorry to burst anyone's bubble!
To be happy you have to train yourself to see the positives, to accept that sometimes things have to be good enough and that to some you will never be perfect!
Here are my 10 top tips for happiness
1. spend time doing something you love, for me this is horse riding but for you it may be dance, singing, art...it could be ANYTHING!
2. Make a scrapbook with a note of every time you felt happy. For me sometime it consists of when someone gave me a hug out of the blue but other times it could be getting a new phone or jumping my favourite horse. It doesn't matter what it is but when you are feeling down you can look back at good times. Also if you make it pretty it is extra good!!
3. Have a loooooooooooooooong bath or shower and breathe! One of my favourite things to do when I feel wound up or down is to get in the shower where I cant be disturbed and just breathe.
4.Sometimes you know what you just need to go to bed and sleep. Some days it is just okay to give up and that is ok!
5. Listen to music! Especially through headphones because you can escape the world and just feel the music.
6. This is a classic but talk to a friend, you dont have to even tell them something is up but chatting to someone who never fails to make you laugh is the best thing!
7. Light a candle and put on those fairy lights...this needs no explanation!
8. Make a box of things you LOVE special treats. This may be a favourite food, favourite hoodie, book, picture, drink, CD, DVD. It could b anything but you are only allowed these items when you are sad!
9. If you can, deal with what is making you sad. Face it head on! For example you did badly on a test, go and see the teacher of that subject talk to them about why maybe see if you can re-sit it or talk about how you can learn from this. Turn the negatives into positives.
10. Cry, Scream, laugh, smile, swear. Try something new....expressing how you are feeling. It is so important to know that it is ok to have emotions!
I hope this helps someone please comment what you do to help yourself feel better!
I love you all
The Boringly Ordinarily Normal Teen
Friday, 24 February 2017
Monday, 13 February 2017
What do you do?
Hi,
Sometimes I feel like I'm really putting my all into something but I'm getting nowhere. Like nothing, zero! For me this could be school work, horse riding, finding a job for others it may be gymnastics, football, dance, rugby and so on. I see people that are so much more advanced than me in so many areas and sometimes it gets to me...a lot.
When you are a kid, maybe even now you are told to try your best but what do you do if that isn't enough. I don't mean in the sense that you didn't win one competition or qualify for you favourite team. I mean in the sense you don't feel like you are progressing or making yourself and the people around you proud. Where do you go when you feel like you are giving something your all but you feel like you are failing.
What defines the good from the best...are the best just trying harder...what do they have that means they can give more. How do you become the best? Or do you have to be born the best? When do you draw that line, is there a point where you have to accept your best won't get you there? I don't know the answers to these questions.
I guess what do you do when you feel like you have given everything to something or someone and you aren't getting to where you want to be what do you do.
Sorry its only a short post but I feel there is a lot to think about
Love you all,
The Boringly Ordinarily Normal Teen
Sometimes I feel like I'm really putting my all into something but I'm getting nowhere. Like nothing, zero! For me this could be school work, horse riding, finding a job for others it may be gymnastics, football, dance, rugby and so on. I see people that are so much more advanced than me in so many areas and sometimes it gets to me...a lot.
When you are a kid, maybe even now you are told to try your best but what do you do if that isn't enough. I don't mean in the sense that you didn't win one competition or qualify for you favourite team. I mean in the sense you don't feel like you are progressing or making yourself and the people around you proud. Where do you go when you feel like you are giving something your all but you feel like you are failing.
What defines the good from the best...are the best just trying harder...what do they have that means they can give more. How do you become the best? Or do you have to be born the best? When do you draw that line, is there a point where you have to accept your best won't get you there? I don't know the answers to these questions.
I guess what do you do when you feel like you have given everything to something or someone and you aren't getting to where you want to be what do you do.
Sorry its only a short post but I feel there is a lot to think about
Love you all,
The Boringly Ordinarily Normal Teen
Tuesday, 17 January 2017
Living Life to the full
Heya,
Todays post was inspired by a very good friend of mine. Today she told me she was going to start living her life to the full(words to live by)...honestly I was jealous because I feel so many hurdles stand in my way of doing that. Sometimes I feel trapped by the world like I am being told I shouldn't try but today I am saying fuck that!
A massive part of my life is horses (let me know if you want to see more on that) and as much as they make me so happy they also can make me feel awful about myself. There is always someone with their own horse, riding more, competing more, jumping higher, have a better position. The thing is a year ago I was the person jumping that bit higher and doing the things I wish I could now. Around August time I had a fall off of a horse that I will forever hold in my heart, he was my baby, but it knocked my confidence more than I realised. I got straight back on after my fall (yes with a broken wrist) and continued to ride after my wrist had healed but only walking round the lanes. I am now at a different yard and havent been there very long, I can honestly say it is one of the best things that has ever happened to me and I have so much opportunity to grow as a rider and person. Not only are there wonderful horses to ride but I hope the friendships I am forming last a long time! But the nerves are there, I have been nervous about just sitting on a horse...once I am on I love it and know I am safe! But I see myself jumping crosses that I could jump years ago and get angry at myself for not being able to do more. Yet my friends (both those at the yard and those who are just horsey!) praise my improved position, my perseverance and I am trying to tell myself that its not about the highest you can jump its about the person who is jumping, how they have worked to get there and most importantly how they pick themselves up when things go wrong. I dont have my own horse, I dont have horsey parents to get to be where I am now I have had to work my bum off!
The broken arm: brace yourselves!
There is a point to that story and its that I am not living my life to the full because I am not giving myself credit for the things I have done! Living your life to the full isn't about what you are physically doing its about how you view that mentally. I don't have the most rosettes nor do I have the best Olympic horse but I do have kind people helping me to be who I want to be. I may never jump the highest jump, in fact someone will always seem to be achieving more but success is relative, look at where you have come from!
This applies to so many aspects in life as the world is a very competitive place and trust me most of the time I struggle to live my life and I settle for surviving and I am not saying I can change that right now. I am saying my future can be what I make it, so can yours! Sorry for the slightly rantings of this but I feel it is so important to recognise just because someone seems to be achieving more than you it doesn't make you any less valid!
Love you all,
The Boringly Ordinarily Normal Teen xx
Todays post was inspired by a very good friend of mine. Today she told me she was going to start living her life to the full(words to live by)...honestly I was jealous because I feel so many hurdles stand in my way of doing that. Sometimes I feel trapped by the world like I am being told I shouldn't try but today I am saying fuck that!
A massive part of my life is horses (let me know if you want to see more on that) and as much as they make me so happy they also can make me feel awful about myself. There is always someone with their own horse, riding more, competing more, jumping higher, have a better position. The thing is a year ago I was the person jumping that bit higher and doing the things I wish I could now. Around August time I had a fall off of a horse that I will forever hold in my heart, he was my baby, but it knocked my confidence more than I realised. I got straight back on after my fall (yes with a broken wrist) and continued to ride after my wrist had healed but only walking round the lanes. I am now at a different yard and havent been there very long, I can honestly say it is one of the best things that has ever happened to me and I have so much opportunity to grow as a rider and person. Not only are there wonderful horses to ride but I hope the friendships I am forming last a long time! But the nerves are there, I have been nervous about just sitting on a horse...once I am on I love it and know I am safe! But I see myself jumping crosses that I could jump years ago and get angry at myself for not being able to do more. Yet my friends (both those at the yard and those who are just horsey!) praise my improved position, my perseverance and I am trying to tell myself that its not about the highest you can jump its about the person who is jumping, how they have worked to get there and most importantly how they pick themselves up when things go wrong. I dont have my own horse, I dont have horsey parents to get to be where I am now I have had to work my bum off!
The broken arm: brace yourselves!
There is a point to that story and its that I am not living my life to the full because I am not giving myself credit for the things I have done! Living your life to the full isn't about what you are physically doing its about how you view that mentally. I don't have the most rosettes nor do I have the best Olympic horse but I do have kind people helping me to be who I want to be. I may never jump the highest jump, in fact someone will always seem to be achieving more but success is relative, look at where you have come from!
This applies to so many aspects in life as the world is a very competitive place and trust me most of the time I struggle to live my life and I settle for surviving and I am not saying I can change that right now. I am saying my future can be what I make it, so can yours! Sorry for the slightly rantings of this but I feel it is so important to recognise just because someone seems to be achieving more than you it doesn't make you any less valid!
Love you all,
The Boringly Ordinarily Normal Teen xx
Friday, 6 January 2017
Bring on 2017
Heya,
Let's have a chat about 2016...the year to be forgotten!! 2016 was possibly the worst year of my life and I do not say that lightly!! Last year I lost people, many close to me were diagnosed with illness (cancer being a common theme!) I broke my arm, got quite ill, school work felt insane and so much more but there were highlights! Some good things are tiny almost insignificant and so easy to miss but to me the smaller things make a massive difference.
Let's have a chat about 2016...the year to be forgotten!! 2016 was possibly the worst year of my life and I do not say that lightly!! Last year I lost people, many close to me were diagnosed with illness (cancer being a common theme!) I broke my arm, got quite ill, school work felt insane and so much more but there were highlights! Some good things are tiny almost insignificant and so easy to miss but to me the smaller things make a massive difference.
- Let's start with a biggie!! I got reunited with my best friend, I hope she is reading this and knows how much I love her!! One of the best things in my year!!
- Another huge high was getting my little pupsicles Charlie. Let me know if you want some pupdates!!
- I got to bring a horse on and I fell in love with him! Circumstances led to our parting but I am still in touch with his owner and hope to see him soon. He was one in a million (I did fall off him and break my wrist minor detail!!) But I see his potential and I hope one day he will get there.
- After sadly parting with one horse a good while later I found a lovely yard that I am now part of and it is fair to say it is one of my favourite places!! If anyone from said yard is reading this...thank you for all you have done for me!
- People going that little bit further for you, one of the ladies from the yard sent kisses on the end of her text and that made me smile endlessly because in that small gesture I was told I was wanted! Things like a teacher stopping in the corridor to chat, a stranger wanting to strike your dog just the little things (What a cliché I know!)
- Building on friendships, I feel blessed by the wonderful friends I have and how much closer I have become to them. Shout out to stalker! 😊
- Scrapbooking this has become a firm passion and I will be continuing this
- My increasing love for candles!!
- Pushing myself out of my comfort zone! I am determined and the real test will be a concert I am going to in Febuary...feeling positive though!
- Lastly the strength of my friends and family. My family particularly for picking themselves up after the continual string of bad news. There will still be the hard times but I love you all and here's to a better 2017.
I hope everyone is well and let me know about your 2016 the good and the bad! Here's to 2017!!
Love
The boringly ordinarily normal teen
Friday, 23 December 2016
25 ways to Just Smile
Heyy,
I'm feeling pretty good today and thought maybe I should spread a bit of positivity!
Such simple things can make your day..a stranger just saying hello one of them!
So I'm feeling good, no reason for it really, no specific event but I am just content. So if you are having a good day whoo!! and please smile at a stranger buy a homeless person a hot drink (It is surprising how much helping someone else can help you!). If your day isn't going quite so well here are some things to try:
1. Have a nice hot shower/bath and just take an extra 30 seconds to enjoy the warmth!
2. Go for a walk and take some pictures!
3. Change your sheets on your bed and arrange some cushions on the bottom
4. FAIRYYYY LIGHTTTSS!!!! (this needs no explanation)
5. Ring your bestie and have a good old rant/ catch up!
6. Find an animal and hug it....even if its not your animal! (you might find a dog with its owner on your walk^^^^!)
7. Now if you know me you know that I have a slight obsession with socks but putting a pair of fluffy socks on always makes me feel a bit better!
8. Find some new blogs to read
9. Have hot chocolate!!!
10. As I briefly mentioned above helping someone else can make you feel great! Maybe start volunteering, buy someone in need a cake, take some children's presents to a paediatrics ward.
11. Light your favourite smelling candle
12. Put on your favourite clothes, the ones you feel great in. These may be pyjamas or your fanciest frock!
13. Have a quick nap!!!!!
14. Read a book/Listen to an audio book
15. Cuddle a teddy...you are never to old for this I promise.
16. Meet up with someone you love
17. Watch your favourite film (Mine is Inside Out!)
18. Try and learn something new.....sewing (*laughs a lot as has a complete inability to sew!*)
19. Comment on my blog....I will definitely reply and we can have a chat!
20. Put on SUPER LOUD music and sing and dance
21. Paint your nails, take off (or put on) your make up, do a face mask.
22. Indulge yourself this may be in food, using your favourite perfume or even just wearing you favourite underwear!
23. Have a chat to your pillow...tell it everything that is on your mind!
24. Scream really loud
25. Stand up right now, walk to a mirror, look yourself in the eye and just smile, force a laugh, smile.
I hope you are feeling a little happier now!
P.S have a great Christmas if you celebrate it, if Christmas is a difficult time for you please pamper yourself and keep yourself safe.
Love you all
The boringly Ordinarily Normal Teen
I'm feeling pretty good today and thought maybe I should spread a bit of positivity!
Such simple things can make your day..a stranger just saying hello one of them!
So I'm feeling good, no reason for it really, no specific event but I am just content. So if you are having a good day whoo!! and please smile at a stranger buy a homeless person a hot drink (It is surprising how much helping someone else can help you!). If your day isn't going quite so well here are some things to try:
1. Have a nice hot shower/bath and just take an extra 30 seconds to enjoy the warmth!
2. Go for a walk and take some pictures!
3. Change your sheets on your bed and arrange some cushions on the bottom
4. FAIRYYYY LIGHTTTSS!!!! (this needs no explanation)
5. Ring your bestie and have a good old rant/ catch up!
6. Find an animal and hug it....even if its not your animal! (you might find a dog with its owner on your walk^^^^!)
7. Now if you know me you know that I have a slight obsession with socks but putting a pair of fluffy socks on always makes me feel a bit better!
8. Find some new blogs to read
9. Have hot chocolate!!!
10. As I briefly mentioned above helping someone else can make you feel great! Maybe start volunteering, buy someone in need a cake, take some children's presents to a paediatrics ward.
11. Light your favourite smelling candle
12. Put on your favourite clothes, the ones you feel great in. These may be pyjamas or your fanciest frock!
13. Have a quick nap!!!!!
14. Read a book/Listen to an audio book
15. Cuddle a teddy...you are never to old for this I promise.
16. Meet up with someone you love
17. Watch your favourite film (Mine is Inside Out!)
18. Try and learn something new.....sewing (*laughs a lot as has a complete inability to sew!*)
19. Comment on my blog....I will definitely reply and we can have a chat!
20. Put on SUPER LOUD music and sing and dance
21. Paint your nails, take off (or put on) your make up, do a face mask.
22. Indulge yourself this may be in food, using your favourite perfume or even just wearing you favourite underwear!
23. Have a chat to your pillow...tell it everything that is on your mind!
24. Scream really loud
25. Stand up right now, walk to a mirror, look yourself in the eye and just smile, force a laugh, smile.
I hope you are feeling a little happier now!
P.S have a great Christmas if you celebrate it, if Christmas is a difficult time for you please pamper yourself and keep yourself safe.
Love you all
The boringly Ordinarily Normal Teen
Saturday, 17 December 2016
LGBTQ+ Community
Heya,
If any of my friends see this I feel a groan coming along, yes I'm going to talk about the LGBTQ+ community (again for some!) because I can and other people who maybe wish they could can't.
I often have conversations with peoples about gay pride and how it is ridiculous that it is acceptable for people to show off their sexuality. The first point I have about this is why would you not want to dress up go out and have fun for a day! Secondly maybe on a more serious note surely it is a good thing there isn't straight pride...it means that you haven't had to fight to be yourselves! But I mean to begin with who even decided what was going to be classed as the social norm? Did someone sit down and think "People must be a specific gender and they must have romantic relationships with the opposing gender" How did it even start?!
Someone close to me was having a conversation with me about a couple they met. This couple was a lesbian couple with a child now I see no issue here however the person close to me (lets call them Gerald!) was finding it hard to comprehend why one of the ladies in the couple felt the need to refer to the other as their wife. Now WHAT!? If two people are married they are husband and wife, wife and wife, husband and husband or maybe even gender fluid. So why is it an issue for a lady to refer to the person they are married to as their wife. Its a fact! That person is their wife!
Another subject that comes to mind as being closely linked is the US presidential election of Trump. It deeply saddens me that a man with such extreme views on many subjects has been given power. America particularly has come a long way with the rights of homosexual couples and I can see this development going backwards. I really hope that those in America make a stand. I just want you to think about something for a minute, think about two people, one who you feel romantically towards and the other maybe a family member or a friend. (person A and person B) Person A tells you they are bisexual for a heterosexual person this can be hard to hear but if you truly love them should this matter? As for person B would you care if they were straight? So should you care if they aren't?
I want to leave with the statement "I support rights for llamas this does not mean I am a llama (it would be kinda cool if I was!)
Love you all
The Boringly Ordinarily Normal Teen
If any of my friends see this I feel a groan coming along, yes I'm going to talk about the LGBTQ+ community (again for some!) because I can and other people who maybe wish they could can't.
I often have conversations with peoples about gay pride and how it is ridiculous that it is acceptable for people to show off their sexuality. The first point I have about this is why would you not want to dress up go out and have fun for a day! Secondly maybe on a more serious note surely it is a good thing there isn't straight pride...it means that you haven't had to fight to be yourselves! But I mean to begin with who even decided what was going to be classed as the social norm? Did someone sit down and think "People must be a specific gender and they must have romantic relationships with the opposing gender" How did it even start?!
Someone close to me was having a conversation with me about a couple they met. This couple was a lesbian couple with a child now I see no issue here however the person close to me (lets call them Gerald!) was finding it hard to comprehend why one of the ladies in the couple felt the need to refer to the other as their wife. Now WHAT!? If two people are married they are husband and wife, wife and wife, husband and husband or maybe even gender fluid. So why is it an issue for a lady to refer to the person they are married to as their wife. Its a fact! That person is their wife!
Another subject that comes to mind as being closely linked is the US presidential election of Trump. It deeply saddens me that a man with such extreme views on many subjects has been given power. America particularly has come a long way with the rights of homosexual couples and I can see this development going backwards. I really hope that those in America make a stand. I just want you to think about something for a minute, think about two people, one who you feel romantically towards and the other maybe a family member or a friend. (person A and person B) Person A tells you they are bisexual for a heterosexual person this can be hard to hear but if you truly love them should this matter? As for person B would you care if they were straight? So should you care if they aren't?
I want to leave with the statement "I support rights for llamas this does not mean I am a llama (it would be kinda cool if I was!)
Love you all
The Boringly Ordinarily Normal Teen
Achieving your Dreams
Hi all,
Sorry it's been such a long time! Today's post is going to be a bit contrcontrevetial but just hear me out!!!
So as cheesey as this sounds my ultimate dream would to be an Olympic show jumper. The likely good of this happen if is very slim and I have accepted that, I'm not trying to be all oh feel sorry for me I've given up on my dream. No! Today I realised that when it comes to my horsey life I am happy with how it is at the moment. I was constantly pushing for more wanting more because I had a goal and if I wanted to get there I had to really push for it. Now I am never you g to ride in the Olympics end of story! But at times I have been so set on in wanting to get as close to this as possible I lost a love for what I was doing!
I feel we can apply this in many aspects of life, we get so set on getting good grades we forget about enjoying learning new information, learning about others, ourselves and to be honest I think if we stopped stressing about where we are going and actually enjoyed what we are doing we may well get better results in the future because we have taken the time to understand not just revise words!!
My point is, of course you should strive to achieve what you want but in this process don't loose yourself or the passion for what you are doing.
I would like to thank some people for re-kindling my love for horses as animals, for giving me some confidence in myself and telling me that although I'm not perfect (far from it), although I am not the best at what I do that isn't really what matters. IF you are reading this you know who you are!
My dream is probably different to yours but just think about if getting to where you want to go is worth sacrificing your desire to get there.
I am going to try and post a bit more from now on. Have a good Christmas and if you don't celebrate Christmas have a good break over the festive season.
Lots of love
The boringly ordinarily normal teen xx
Sorry it's been such a long time! Today's post is going to be a bit contrcontrevetial but just hear me out!!!
So as cheesey as this sounds my ultimate dream would to be an Olympic show jumper. The likely good of this happen if is very slim and I have accepted that, I'm not trying to be all oh feel sorry for me I've given up on my dream. No! Today I realised that when it comes to my horsey life I am happy with how it is at the moment. I was constantly pushing for more wanting more because I had a goal and if I wanted to get there I had to really push for it. Now I am never you g to ride in the Olympics end of story! But at times I have been so set on in wanting to get as close to this as possible I lost a love for what I was doing!
I feel we can apply this in many aspects of life, we get so set on getting good grades we forget about enjoying learning new information, learning about others, ourselves and to be honest I think if we stopped stressing about where we are going and actually enjoyed what we are doing we may well get better results in the future because we have taken the time to understand not just revise words!!
My point is, of course you should strive to achieve what you want but in this process don't loose yourself or the passion for what you are doing.
I would like to thank some people for re-kindling my love for horses as animals, for giving me some confidence in myself and telling me that although I'm not perfect (far from it), although I am not the best at what I do that isn't really what matters. IF you are reading this you know who you are!
My dream is probably different to yours but just think about if getting to where you want to go is worth sacrificing your desire to get there.
I am going to try and post a bit more from now on. Have a good Christmas and if you don't celebrate Christmas have a good break over the festive season.
Lots of love
The boringly ordinarily normal teen xx
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