Hi
Happiness, something that comes naturally to everyone right? Wrong! For many people happiness is something you have to work at but that makes it all the more rewarding when it is achieved.
I dont know why but for some people laughing with your friends is unnatural, smiling is strange meaning it can feel like you have a soul of sadness. But you can change this! Often as a human race we focus on what we can never have or achieve.
I for one am a MASSIVE perfectionist! I love my work to be perfect, I want the highest grades, I like things to be perfect! This can make you so unhappy though as to be the best at everything is actually impossible! Sorry to burst anyone's bubble!
To be happy you have to train yourself to see the positives, to accept that sometimes things have to be good enough and that to some you will never be perfect!
Here are my 10 top tips for happiness
1. spend time doing something you love, for me this is horse riding but for you it may be dance, singing, art...it could be ANYTHING!
2. Make a scrapbook with a note of every time you felt happy. For me sometime it consists of when someone gave me a hug out of the blue but other times it could be getting a new phone or jumping my favourite horse. It doesn't matter what it is but when you are feeling down you can look back at good times. Also if you make it pretty it is extra good!!
3. Have a loooooooooooooooong bath or shower and breathe! One of my favourite things to do when I feel wound up or down is to get in the shower where I cant be disturbed and just breathe.
4.Sometimes you know what you just need to go to bed and sleep. Some days it is just okay to give up and that is ok!
5. Listen to music! Especially through headphones because you can escape the world and just feel the music.
6. This is a classic but talk to a friend, you dont have to even tell them something is up but chatting to someone who never fails to make you laugh is the best thing!
7. Light a candle and put on those fairy lights...this needs no explanation!
8. Make a box of things you LOVE special treats. This may be a favourite food, favourite hoodie, book, picture, drink, CD, DVD. It could b anything but you are only allowed these items when you are sad!
9. If you can, deal with what is making you sad. Face it head on! For example you did badly on a test, go and see the teacher of that subject talk to them about why maybe see if you can re-sit it or talk about how you can learn from this. Turn the negatives into positives.
10. Cry, Scream, laugh, smile, swear. Try something new....expressing how you are feeling. It is so important to know that it is ok to have emotions!
I hope this helps someone please comment what you do to help yourself feel better!
I love you all
The Boringly Ordinarily Normal Teen
Friday, 24 February 2017
Monday, 13 February 2017
What do you do?
Hi,
Sometimes I feel like I'm really putting my all into something but I'm getting nowhere. Like nothing, zero! For me this could be school work, horse riding, finding a job for others it may be gymnastics, football, dance, rugby and so on. I see people that are so much more advanced than me in so many areas and sometimes it gets to me...a lot.
When you are a kid, maybe even now you are told to try your best but what do you do if that isn't enough. I don't mean in the sense that you didn't win one competition or qualify for you favourite team. I mean in the sense you don't feel like you are progressing or making yourself and the people around you proud. Where do you go when you feel like you are giving something your all but you feel like you are failing.
What defines the good from the best...are the best just trying harder...what do they have that means they can give more. How do you become the best? Or do you have to be born the best? When do you draw that line, is there a point where you have to accept your best won't get you there? I don't know the answers to these questions.
I guess what do you do when you feel like you have given everything to something or someone and you aren't getting to where you want to be what do you do.
Sorry its only a short post but I feel there is a lot to think about
Love you all,
The Boringly Ordinarily Normal Teen
Sometimes I feel like I'm really putting my all into something but I'm getting nowhere. Like nothing, zero! For me this could be school work, horse riding, finding a job for others it may be gymnastics, football, dance, rugby and so on. I see people that are so much more advanced than me in so many areas and sometimes it gets to me...a lot.
When you are a kid, maybe even now you are told to try your best but what do you do if that isn't enough. I don't mean in the sense that you didn't win one competition or qualify for you favourite team. I mean in the sense you don't feel like you are progressing or making yourself and the people around you proud. Where do you go when you feel like you are giving something your all but you feel like you are failing.
What defines the good from the best...are the best just trying harder...what do they have that means they can give more. How do you become the best? Or do you have to be born the best? When do you draw that line, is there a point where you have to accept your best won't get you there? I don't know the answers to these questions.
I guess what do you do when you feel like you have given everything to something or someone and you aren't getting to where you want to be what do you do.
Sorry its only a short post but I feel there is a lot to think about
Love you all,
The Boringly Ordinarily Normal Teen
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